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Essay On A Mother And Child Relationship

A mother is the female parent of the child who gives birth to her child, nourishes by feeding milk and food and cares all through the life.

Essay on Mother

Nothing is considered to be better than a mother, her love and care. Let your kids to write something about you or recite on you in his/her school. These essay on mother are written in very simple words especially for your kids and school going children. You can select any mother essay given below according to the need and requirement:

Mother Essay 1 (100 words)

A mother is the most precious person in the life on everyone about which we cannot describe completely in the words. However some of the valuable moments with our mother can be described. A mother is the most beautiful and caring person in our lives. She always cares every moment for our every need without her any personal intention. In the morning, she calls us very softly to get rise from the bed and during night she tell us lovely stories to make us sleep with beautiful dream. She helps us to get ready for school with proper breakfast and hygienic lunch. She always waits at door for us while we return from school. She helps us to do our school homework.

Mother Essay 2 (150 words)

The role of the mother in our lives is always different and precious than other involved in our life. Of course we are truly loved and cared by our mothers every moment all through the day. She never wants back anything from her kids instead she loves us with open heart. We as a child also love and care her from our heart but our love cannot be compared with her. Mother is unique in this world in the life of everyone’s as a living goddess who always takes all the pains of her child and gives love and care.

She is the one who spends her sleepless nights during our sickness and other bad days. She happily involves in our happy moments and understands our each and every likes and dislikes. She always guides us to go ahead at right path and do right things in the life. She is our first teacher who teaches us at every step of life. She teaches us to always be in discipline, behave in well manners and make us understand about our roles and responsibilities towards family, society and country.

Mother Essay 3 (200 words)

Our mother is the most important person in our life who always nurture us like a true nature. She be with us always and care for us every moment. She carry us in her womb for 9 months by bearing lots of pain and discomfort however she always become happy by thinking about us in her real life. She gives birth to us without complaining a little bit. We can never compare her genuine love and care all through our life but we should respect and love her always. Every person who has a mother in their life is really lucky and blessed with lots of blessings from God.

A mother is very ordinary woman who never considers her own happiness in front of her kids. She always shows her interests in our every activity and laugh. She has a selfless soul and very kind heart full of lots of love and care. She is a woman with strong willpower who always teaches us of how to face the toughest challenges of the life. She always inspires us to achieve good things in our life by overcoming all the hardships of the life. She is the first teacher of everyone whom teachings are always proved to be precious and valuable all through the life.


Mother Essay 4 (250 words)

A mother is the first, foremost and best friend of everyone’s life as no one can be true and real like her. She is the one and only who always stands with us in our all good and bad times. She always cares and loves us more than we deserve and others in her life. She gives us first priority of her life and gives us glimpse of hope in our bad times. The day we born, it is our mother who becomes really happy. She knows our all the reasons of happiness and sadness and try to make us happy every time.

There is a special bond exists between mother and kids which can never be end. A mother never less her love and care to her kids and always give equal love and care to her every kid but we all kids together can never give her a little love and care like her in her old age. Even after she never understands us wrong and forgive us like a small child. She understands our each and every activity, we can never fool her.

She never wants us to get hurt by someone and teaches us to behave well with others. In order to pay attention and pay thankfulness to the mothers, May 13th has been declared as a Mother’s Day to celebrate every year. No one pay even a single role in our life as a mother. We too always take care of our mother all through the life.

Mother Essay 5 (300 words)

A mother is only one in everyone’s life whom another can never replace her in our heart. She is like true nature who always knows only to give us, not taking back anything in return. We see her from the first moment of our life when we open our eyes in this world however we feel her nine months before in her womb. The first word of us becomes mom whenever we start speaking. She is our first love, first teacher and first of all our first friend in this big world. When we born we are nothing and unable to do anything however it is she who make us grow and develop in her arms. She makes us able to understand and do anything in this world.

She is always only for us and nurture us like God. If there is any God on the earth, it is our mother. No one can care and love us like our mothers and no one can sacrifice everything for us like her. She is the best woman of our life whom place can never be replaced by anyone in the future. Even after being tired she become always ready for us to do everything like a tired less one. She wakes up us in the early morning very politely, prepares breakfast and gives lunch and water bottle as usual.

She waits for us in the afternoon at the door after doing all the daily chores. She prepares a delicious dinner in the night and always takes care of our likes and dislikes. She helps us in doing our homework and project. She never tired off giving lots of love and care like ocean can never be water less. She is unique and only one in the whole universe whom nothing can replace. She is the true solutions of our all the small and big problems. She is one who never says bad to her child and always takes side of her child.


 

Mother Essay 6 (400 words)

Nothing in this world can compare with the true love and care of our mother. She is the one and only woman of our life who loves and cares us so much without any personal intention of her. A child is everything for a mother. She always encourages us to do any hard things in the life whenever we become helpless. She is the good listener of us and listen everything bad or good what we say. She never restricts and limits us to any limitation. She makes us able to differentiate between good or bad.

True love is another name of a mother which only a mother can have. From the time we come in her womb, takes birth and throughout her life in this world, she give us tired less care and love. Nothing is precious than a mother which one can be blessed by the God thus we should always thankful to the God. She is the embodiment of true love, care and sacrifices. She is the one who turns a house into a sweet home by giving birth to us.

She is the one who starts our schooling first time at home and becomes a first and lovely teacher of our life. She teaches us behaviour lessons and true philosophies of the life. She loves and cares us from the existence of our life in this world means from her womb till she alive. She gives birth to us after bearing lots of pain and struggles but in turn she always gives us love. There is no love in this world which is so lasting, strong, unselfish, pure and devoted. She is the one who brings lights in our life by removing all the darkness.

Every night she tells us about mythological tales, stories about the God and Goddess and other historical stories of king and queen. She always becomes very anxious about our health, education, future and our safety from other strangers. She always leads us towards right direction in the life and most importantly she scatters true happiness in our life. She makes us strong human being mentally, physically, socially and intellectually from a small and incapable child. She always takes side of us and prays to God for our wellness and bright future all through the life even after we make her sad sometimes. But there is lots of sadness behind her always happy face which we need to understand and take care of her.

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"A child's future relationships are almost entirely determined by the quality of attachment to the mother." Discuss, referring to relevant empirical evidence.

The primal importance of a child's bond to its mother has always been recognised, and is a topic that has fascinated people for thousands of years. Playwrights from Sophocles to the modern day have explored this, and in more recent times psychologists have devoted much research and conjecture to understanding it. Among psychologists, there is much debate about exactly how important this attachment is, and why.

At the turn of the century, the treatment of new-born babies was regarded as having little significance for later life, as babies were thought to be immune to influence. This idea, like many others prevalent at that time, was attacked by Sigmund Freud. He believed (see Freud, 1933 for a synopsis, but this theory was put forward considerably earlier) that the relationship a child has with its mother is a prototype on which all future relationships are based.

Freud's theory held that the child becomes attached to its mother because she is its source of food, hence she gratifies its most basic needs. Slightly later in childhood, the drive for food is supplemented by another basic drive - the need for sexual pleasure. According to Freud's theory, the mother, who is already an object of love because of her role in satisfying the first need, becomes an object of desire with whom the child wants to gratify its sexual desire (this is with reference to boys - an equivalent mechanism was proposed for girls, but much criticised, and Freud eventually admitted to not understanding female sexuality). In the normal course of growing up, the child comes to accept that this can not be, and sets out to become an adult, and find another figure with whom to satisfy this need. It follows that if future relationships are a substitute for the mother-child bond, then they will also be modelled on it.

Many people have questioned this cynical view of infants, including John Bowlby (1969, 1973). He disregarded what he called Freud's "cupboard love" theory of attachment, believing instead that a child is born biologically pre-disposed to become attached to its mother for two important reasons. These are the need for comfort, and the fear of the unknown, both of which are characteristics that can be observed in all children. Thus the bond with the mother is formed for less crass reasons than simply that she is the provider of sustenance.

Bowlby's conjecture has been supported experimentally by Harlow (1958). He studied rhesus monkeys, one of the primate species most closely related to humans. In his study, new-born monkeys were raised without their mothers, instead of which they were provided with two 'mother substitutes'. One was a wire 'mother' equipped with a nipple that provided food, whereas the other was a 'mother doll' made of terry-cloth. While the monkeys soon learned which was the source of food, and went to the "wire mother" to feed, they became attached to the "cloth mother," which was their source of comfort when frightened. This shows that infants need their mother for something other than food, and this comfort can only be provided by an appropriate figure - the cloth mother is a better substitute because it more closely resembles the monkeys' real mothers.

Though he disputed Freud’s explanation of the child’s love for its mother, Bowlby agreed that the attachment a child forms to its mother is crucially important for the rest of its life. That a primary attachment is important is generally accepted, but the contention that it must necessarily be with the child’s mother has also been debated. In the late 20th Century, more and more mothers are having to work while their children are still very young, and yet this social change does not seem to be creating a mentally unhealthy generation. Clarke-Stewart (1989) studied children who had "had extensive non-maternal care" during the first year of their lives, and did not find evidence of this having harmed them. These children had formed attachments, but not necessarily to their mothers, and this arrangement seems to be adequate.

Having seen that the formation of a primary attachment is important, the next issue is how this attachment is formed. One approach is that babies are born Ôprogrammed’ to form an attachment to something, which under normal circumstances is the mother. An equivalent process in animals was studied by Konrad Lorenz (reported in Hess, 1959).

Lorenz studied baby birds, and found that a newly hatched chick instinctively follows the first moving object it sees as soon as it can walk. If it has the chance to follow this object for about 10 minutes, it develops a strong attachment to it, and is distressed if they become separated. In nature, this first moving object would be the mother’s legs, but Lorenz found that the process (which he called "imprinting") can take place with any other object, such as his own legs, a model duck, or even things totally removed from nature like a wooden rectangle. He found that this imprinting need not necessarily occur immediately after birth, but that there is a "critical period", during which the chick is ready to be imprinted. In ducklings this period lasts about two days.

Klaus and Kennel extended this idea to cover human babies, claiming that the first few hours after birth constitute a similar critical period, after which a bond can still be formed between mother and child, but it will not be as strong. They found that a lack of contact between mother and child can lead to "disorders of parenting", which have adverse consequences for the child. These findings have been disputed, and it is only generally accepted that this critical period has short-term consequences; in the long term it is thought that bonds formed later can be as strong (Bee, 1995).

Klaus and Kennel then postulated a second stage of attachment, which is the "opportunity to develop real mutuality". This takes place over the course of the first few months of the baby’s life, as parent and child interact with and respond to each other, allowing a "natural interlocking pattern of attachment behaviours" to develop. This second phase of attachment is more widely accepted than the first, and has far greater long term significance.
The main remaining issue is that of what happens if the child does not form a primary attachment in this way. The most obvious case is of children who form no such attachment at all.

Harlow, having studied attachment behaviour in rhesus monkeys, followed this up with a study of the consequences of having no attachment at all (1962). He reared monkeys in isolation for various periods of time, and found that those who had no contact with others (neither their mother, nor any peers) for the first year of their lives were severely disturbed by the experience. When brought out of isolation, these subjects did not participate in the active play which is characteristic of normal monkeys, but instead huddled and withdrew. When they matured, they proved incapable of mating, and those that were artificially inseminated were incompetent parents. Mothers who had no experience of being loved by a mother showed no love for their children, even abusing them horrifically.

To establish whether or not a similar phenomenon occurs in human development, Goldfarb (1955) studied children who were brought up in orphanages with little or no human contact for the first 3 years of their lives, and compared them to children who were adopted at birth. Both groups had been separated from their natural parents, but the adopted children had the chance to form normal attachments to other people. He found that the adopted children performed better on tests of aptitude, and the orphans not only performed less well, but also became socially maladjusted. They either became "insatiable in their demands" for human love and attention, or showed no interest in other people.

This clearly shows that the lack of a primary bond is damaging to a child, but there is also the issue of what happens when a bond is formed, but is not as secure or strong as it should be. To study this, one must first define a Ôsecure attachment’.
Mary Ainsworth (Ainsworth and Bell, 1970) devised a test to determine the quality of a one year old infant’s attachment to its mother. This test, known as the "Strange Situation", involves observing an infant’s reactions when a stranger enters a room in which the infant has been playing in the company of its mother. The mother then leaves, leaving the child alone with a stranger, and after a short time the mother returns.

On the basis of this experiment, children can be classified as "securely attached" or "insecurely attached". The securely attached children showed some distress when the mother left, but were prepared to interact with the stranger. When the mother returned they greeted her enthusiastically, and she could comfort them if they were upset. Insecure children responded in various ways, either not reacting to the mother, or rejecting her when she returned, or being so distressed by her leaving that they refused contact with the stranger.
If the quality of attachment is as important to later relationships as has been claimed above, then one would expect children who rate as securely attached when a year old to socialise well when they reach school. Longitudinal studies (such as Waters, Wippman, and Sroufe, 1979) have confirmed this hypothesis, with findings that rate securely attached children higher on a wide variety of scales, including self-esteem, altruism, sociability and classroom behaviour.

In conclusion, it seems fair to say that children must develop a secure primary attachment in order to develop in a healthy manner. There is much evidence, however, that this attachment need not necessarily be to the child’s mother, as their father, another caregiver, or in exceptional circumstances a peer group can perform a similar function. Whoever the bond is formed with, however, a secure and strong attachment is clearly essential for healthy future relationships.

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